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Living with Emotional Intensity

From healing to thriving, the misfit’s way.

Relationships
Are You an Emotionally Unavailable Partner?

Imi Lo on April 26, 2024

Emotional unavailability can stem from past traumas, having a naturally rational temperament, or cultural influences that discourage emotional expression.

Emotional unavailability can stem from past traumas, having a naturally rational temperament, or cultural influences that discourage emotional expression.

Trauma
Self-Blame and Internalized Anger

Imi Lo on April 16, 2024

Why would people who faced trauma as children resort to self-blame and internalized anger? Learn that self-blame starts as a way to cope with difficult family life.

Why would people who faced trauma as children resort to self-blame and internalized anger? Learn that self-blame starts as a way to cope with difficult family life.

Intelligence
7 Relationship Struggles for People With a High IQ

Imi Lo on January 29, 2024

Unveiling 7 challenges faced by high-IQ individuals in relationships. Explore the unique struggles and discover tips for navigating the complex dynamics of love and intellect.

Unveiling 7 challenges faced by high-IQ individuals in relationships. Explore the unique struggles and discover tips for navigating the complex dynamics of love and intellect.

Highly Sensitive Person
How Stoicism Can Work for the Highly Sensitive Person

Imi Lo on December 18, 2023

Explore the intersection of Stoicism and the highly sensitive experience. Stoic principles offer a guiding light for HSPs in the realms of emotion, self-discovery, and resilience.

Explore the intersection of Stoicism and the highly sensitive experience. Stoic principles offer a guiding light for HSPs in the realms of emotion, self-discovery, and resilience.

Trauma
Structural Dissociation and Hiding Behind "'Normal"

Imi Lo on November 26, 2023

Trauma splitting can be a result of narcissistic abuse. A vulnerable child copes by internally dividing the "normal self" shown to the world and the "traumatized self."

Trauma splitting can be a result of narcissistic abuse. A vulnerable child copes by internally dividing the "normal self" shown to the world and the "traumatized self."

Projection
Projective Identification: The Silent Narcissistic Abuse

Imi Lo on November 14, 2023

Parental projective identification is enduring lifelong gaslighting, with a constant projection of unresolved emotions, fostering confusion and self-doubt.

Parental projective identification is enduring lifelong gaslighting, with a constant projection of unresolved emotions, fostering confusion and self-doubt.

Borderline Personality Disorder
The Challenge of Having a Mother With BPD

Imi Lo on August 10, 2023

The emotional scars of growing up with a mother with BPD may include the shame of being "too much," boundary issues, and the fear of becoming like her.

The emotional scars of growing up with a mother with BPD may include the shame of being "too much," boundary issues, and the fear of becoming like her.

Fear
Overcoming the Fear of Becoming Your Parents

Imi Lo on May 16, 2023

There is a fear that often goes unspoken, lurking in the shadows of our minds. It is the fear that we will one day become like those who inflicted harm upon us—our parents.

There is a fear that often goes unspoken, lurking in the shadows of our minds. It is the fear that we will one day become like those who inflicted harm upon us—our parents.

Therapy
Why Silicon Valley Needs Therapy

Imi Lo on April 26, 2023

Silicon Valley's high-pressure work culture can harm mental health. Lack of diversity, low EQ, and the challenges of giftedness add to the problem.

Silicon Valley's high-pressure work culture can harm mental health. Lack of diversity, low EQ, and the challenges of giftedness add to the problem.

Misophonia
Unmasking Misophonia: An Invisible Challenge

Imi Lo on December 17, 2022

Misophonia, also known as "sound phobia," is a neurological condition characterized by a strong emotional reaction to everyday sounds. Do you have misophonia?

Misophonia, also known as "sound phobia," is a neurological condition characterized by a strong emotional reaction to everyday sounds. Do you have misophonia?

Autism
Finding Your Way Through Neurodiversity

Imi Lo on December 3, 2022

You might have always felt different without knowing why. You might be called “weird” or “too much” for others. The spectrum of autism may explain some of your challenges.

You might have always felt different without knowing why. You might be called “weird” or “too much” for others. The spectrum of autism may explain some of your challenges.

Trauma
4 Ways to Break Free From Abusive Parents

Imi Lo on October 15, 2022

It often takes years and many attempts before we freeing ourselves from repetition compulsion, but it is possible with the right mindset shifts.

It often takes years and many attempts before we freeing ourselves from repetition compulsion, but it is possible with the right mindset shifts.

Personality
The Potential Upsides to Having a Partner with Borderline

Imi Lo on August 12, 2022

People with borderline are frequently chastised, marginalized, and stigmatized, yet the truth is they deserve love and compassion just as much as anyone else.

People with borderline are frequently chastised, marginalized, and stigmatized, yet the truth is they deserve love and compassion just as much as anyone else.

Anxiety
Do You Let Yourself Take Up Space?

Imi Lo on July 26, 2022

Do you fear silence? Do you avoid talking about yourself? Do you always feel the need to be productive? Learning how to take up space could change your life.

Do you fear silence? Do you avoid talking about yourself? Do you always feel the need to be productive? Learning how to take up space could change your life.